I’ve had a lot of conversations with people lately about Christmas gifts—how they choose which presents to give, how many presents they give their children, how much they spend (budgeted or not) on Christmas. What is usually associated with these conversations is fatigue and frustration. The themes of stress and feeling overspent—both emotionally and financially—are frequent.

I wonder if it has to be this way—if giving needs to get “bigger and better” every year. I know that the media definitely props up this idea and advertisers grip on pretty tightly to it as well. But, does that mean we have to?

My children attended my neighbor’s 3rd birthday party today. It was a princess themed party, so there were lots of tiaras and gowns, purples and pinks. At the gift opening, it was clear to see which gift most enamored my neighbor girl —a card that played music. She laughed and laughed each time she opened it with the other little ones gathered around her watching, while the fancy princess gifts sat on a table nearby, not getting much attention. It was amusing, but also thought provoking. Children, especially when very young, can teach us a lot about finding joy in the simple things.

What are we teaching our children when it comes to gifts—both giving and receiving? Are they getting the message that bigger is better, that more and more brings happiness, is “enough” part of their vocabulary? If they don’t learn this from parents and important adults in their lives, I think it will be difficult for them learn it elsewhere.

Helpful resources for creative and intentional giving at Christmas include:

The Hundred Dollar Holiday

Eco Friendly, Budget Friendly Giving

Simple Christmas

Unplug the Christmas Machine: A Complete Guide to Putting Love and Joy Back into the Season

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