Being a team player
I attended my daughter’s first soccer game this past weekend—it was, to say the least, highly entertaining to watch this group of four and five year olds play for the first time. Most children on her team have no real concept of the game, but have enrolled this season because they enjoy kicking a ball around or because they have expressed some interest in playing on a team, maybe due to an older sibling’s involvement or watching the game on TV. My husband and I cheered my daughter on with smiles on our faces watching her give us a “thumbs up” and a huge grin each time she touched the ball. She was so proud of herself!
After watching the game, I recognized even more some of the benefits of children being involved in team activities—whether the activity is a sport, a school play, or an orchestra. For children to experience how to accomplish a goal and involve people outside of themselves to do so is such an important life lesson. Being a team player while also working at your own individual expertise is a life skill that they will be able to apply on the job, in their families, and in their communities.
While we don’t want to over schedule our children, which can produce anxiety and stress, we do want to give them opportunities to learn these valuable lessons. My daughter, along with her teammates, is learning not only the physical skills necessary for this game, but the social and emotional skills needed in order to succeed together—and this is something I can cheer for!
Plus, now I know where most families with young children spend their Saturday mornings—I had no idea!
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Jamie Allen
I am clinical social worker with Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services. I work with individuals, couples and families at the Caledonia Clinic and I also see students at Davenport University. I graduated from Calvin College, where I now teach as an adjunct instructor, and completed my graduate work at Michigan State University (go Spartans!). As a therapist, I work with a wide range of people and issues, which I find both energizing and challenging. Being a therapist is one of my passions, but not my only. On the home front, I have been married for ten years to an amazing man and have three young energetic children. To seek balance and have some fun, I also enjoy running, having coffee with friends, reading, frequenting local restaurants, and living in my Eastown neighborhood. My blog entries will reflect my various roles, experiences, and interests.